Lessons Learned Again
The other day I had the pleasure of talking to the archetype, the quintessential, the cliche, person on the left of the political spectrum.
It didn't take very long to see that he was a liberal, and of course, it didn't take long for him to see me as a conservative. Shortly into the conversation, he said that it's about time we had a woman president, and he was quick to offer up the veritable poster-woman of American politics: Hillary Clinton.
I replied with a standard, "I will not vote for her."
"Why!? Why!?" he asked, champing at the bit.
Calmly I replied, "I don't agree with her policies."
"I can see you're a conservative," he replied, with a sneer.
"Mostly, though I tend to be moderate."
"Ha. Yeah," he said, sarcasm dripping from his mouth (or maybe that was saliva).
And then came the most infuriating part:
"So yeah, you don't think she should be elected because she's a woman, huh," he espoused, pushing hard to jam some words in my mouth.
"No, I don't agree with her policies," I said, matter-of-factly. It's the truth, so why should I hide from it?
"You see, to me, conservatives say that people shouldn't be elected because of blank. You can fill the blank with sex, or race or social status." Again, trying to put words in my mouth. And, without giving me anytime to rebut that statement, effectively tying to make me own his statement, he said, "Well what policies don't you agree with?"
"Health care, for starters."
(Note: Probably the funniest part of this discourse is that he wanted her elected because of her gender, and I don't want her elected because of her views.)
There's really not much need to disect the conversation any farther. What he tried to do, and did because I became frustrated, was to force on me beliefs that aren't mine, beliefs which may very well belong to other people, but not me. And of course, once he had written me off as an "idiot Bush voter" and an "ignorant conservative" any hope at meaning conversation and discourse was thwarted. And yes, it was thwarted because it was intentional on his part.
The nature of the problem is that I understand him. I know how he thinks; I know why he thinks what he thinks. I just don't agree with him - and he has no desire to understand why. All that matters is that his world not be shaken, not be attacked, not be tarnished in any way, and the best way to do that is to belittle your opponent. Write him off as less intelligent; a bigot. Make sure it's all untrue. Why care what he actually believes?
Why is the left so scared of the right? Or the middle for that matter? There are opposing views out there, and the difference between he and I is that I can counter the veiws opposing mine. And as an added bonus, I need not dehumanize my opponent to do so. If you're going to be "better" than me, at least actually be better than me. Please...
